"But when you tell your own story honestly, that epiphany thing is rare: there is no walk, there is no fated grab. You try every fruit, or forget there even are trees, and wander from forest to forest, losing sight of any destination. The only changes are emergencies or blessings: when you wake up, notice the surroundings, then fall back, and wander more. And if you're lucky you end up walking again through a life where you're never called on to do too much noticing...This is what guilt is like, this is what grief is like, this is how a life forms: when you can't ignore it, when it wraps itself around one event like a vine clutching a rock."

-- Darin Strauss, Half a Life